Icy Days Bring Change
Hi Everyone,
Well, we are in the middle of an “ice storm” here. Had to laugh when our dog Choco went running out of the doorway leading to our garage this morning and quickly began sliding across the walkway. But Choco wasn’t to be deterred. He did his best to run in place around the driveway until he realized that he wasn’t going to get anywhere. Oh he had motion, but he didn’t really have movement.
The storm and Choco’s response to it is a reminder that we’re simply not in control of everything that happens in life. We can go to bed looking out at a winter wonderland and wake up to an ice coated skating rink.
Change is definitely the norm when it comes to life isn’t it? Anyone who has had a child die knows that too well. In a moment, or possibly over a period of months, we see so many dreams and possibilities crumbling before our eyes, and we know that nothing will ever be the same again.
It’s how we deal with that change that determines our well being. That’s the challenge of grieving “well” isn’t it? Because our world is forever changed and there isn’t anything we can do about it but face that reality and begin to live in the present.
If there’s one thing we’ve learned since Mickey died it’s that life does change as surely as the sun comes up in the east every morning. I can choose to let my life spiral into morose despair. Or, I can choose to deal with the realities that change brings.
Judy and I have chosen to deal with the realities of change and to help others do the same.
If you’re suffering today because you have lost a child, please know that your pain is normal and real. And also know that one day your pain can change to hope and peace once again. That IS a change that renews our spirit and our love of life.
Well, I need to head out to see whether we’re going anywhere today? Had plans, but I’m pretty sure they have been changed. God bless, and remember we love you guys. Pat & Judy







